I (Erin Smalley) was recently having coffee with a girlfriend and she shared that “she doesn’t dream anymore.” At first I was confused, wondering if she had a neurological issue that kept her from entering REM sleep, thus, explaining her lack of dreaming. However, as I continued to listen, I realized that she was actually talking about “dreams” in the way of “things she dreamt about doing”—goals for her life and marriage.

As I listened to my friend that morning, I realized that little children have no problem dreaming about the present and the future. My 7 year-old son dreams about being in the NFL someday; however, he also thinks his 40-year-old father should be able to try out for the Dallas Cowboys as well!

When do we stop dreaming about the possibilities in life? What about the endless possibilities of greatness in our marriage?

Spend some time today with your spouse “dreaming” about your marriage relationship. What do you each desire your marriage relationship to be like or look like? What would it take to move you in that direction? How will you know when you get there?