The One. We spend much of our young lives searching for this mythical counterpart to our hearts, and when we finally say our “I Do’s,” we begin to question if we gave up our search too quickly. We begin to wonder why marriage is so difficult, thinking that it would be easier if we were matched up with our soul mate. But where did we get this idea that there is only one person out there for us? Let me point a finger…

Hollywood has ingrained this notion into us, telling us that we must find that one person out there, and then life will become much easier.  For, after all, all we need is love, right?  But when marital troubles arise and difficulties ensue, we tell ourselves “I did not sign up for this.  It would be easier if we were meant to be.” 

Marriage is hard.  Hollywood can try to hide it, but reality will always prevail.  Love is certainly a necessary ingredient in a healthy marriage, but it cannot overcome the everyday routines, the unrealistic expectations, or the meshing of two different people.  When you find yourself in a difficult time in marriage, remember that you are not alone.  All marriages go through rough patches.  But do not give up on your marriage or your spouse.  Take some time to adjust your expectations of your marriage.  Try not to let Hollywood dictate the rhythm of your marriage.

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