July 2010 NWA Marriage Adventure: WeSpice

A marriage goes through many seasons over the years, and some of these are more satisfying than others. Often the initial phases of a relationship are the most exciting and interesting because everything is so new and fresh. You are learning about each other and discovering something new each day. The familiarity hasn’t set in yet, and seeing each other is still exhilarating.

As time passes by, however, what was once new and thrilling can become older and more familiar. The relationship might not seem as exciting as it was in the beginning. Does it ever feel like the excitement has faded in your marriage and has been replaced by the growing demands and responsibilities of married life? If so, there is no need to panic. Don’t mistake this for a negative sign. It’s just a normal progression of all human relationships. All couples get into a rut from time to time. And yet, this is not the type of association that we want with our marriage. No one wants to use words like rut, boring, uninteresting, tedious, monotonous, uninspiring or humdrum when describing their marriage. You’d be hard pressed to find any of these words in a wedding ceremony!

The reality is that it takes sincere effort to keep your marriage growing. A “spicy” marriage takes constant attention, nurture and care on the part of both people to keep the relationship strong, refreshed, alive and exciting.

Could your marriage be a little more romantic, adventurous, spontaneous or more fun? Is your relationship as good as it can get, or has it lost a bit of its pizzazz and could use a boost? If so, here are a few tips that will help you spice up your marriage.

TIPS FOR BRINGING BACK THE SIZZLE

1. Let’s talk about it. Open and honest communication is vital to keep the spark alive. It’s important though, to have specific times where you don’t discuss the kids, jobs, bills or other stress related topics, and use the time to really connect with each other as friends and lovers.

2. Give plenty of compliments. Tell your spouse why you love her. Appreciate your spouse for his achievements. Express genuine appreciation and gratitude for the things they do.

3. Flirt with your spouse. Make time during the day to call or text message your spouse to let them know you are thinking about them. Don’t use that time to complain about the kids, the in-laws, or bills piling up. Everyone likes to know that someone is thinking about them, and it’ll boost their day just knowing that you took the time.

4. Make small gestures. Periodically surprise your spouse with small gifts or activities to let them know you’re thinking of them. Do something thoughtful, whether it’s bringing home flowers, buying them something you know they wanted or taking out the trash. The little things really do count.

5. Bring back the fun! Be spontaneous! Be silly and goofy with each other, laugh a lot and enjoy the pleasure of each other’s company. Create opportunities for fun together!

6. WeSpice Marriage Adventure. Take part in this month’s marriage adventure. This is a great way to spice things up this month. Click HERE for more information.

Click HERE for more about this month’s Marriage Adventure, WeSpice.

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