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Marital Inflation in an Economic Recession?

Monday, January 4th, 2010

The National Marriage Project released The State of Our Unions recently, which is an annual publication that monitors the current health of marriage and family life in America. This project, which is conducted at the Univeristy of Virginia, sheds light on many issues surrounding marital life in our country, including cohabitation, divorce, child centeredness, etc.

Perhaps the most relevant piece of information that was released in 2009’s report is how the Great Recession, and money issues in general, affect marriages in America.

Due to the fact that our country is currently in a recession, one may assume that marriages are suffering because of the additional stress that unemployment, debt, and money issues place on a couple. However, this report suggests otherwise. In fact, the divorce rate fell during this past year!

An article in the report, titled The Great Recession’s Silver Lining?, claims that “many couples appear to be developing a new appreciation for the economic and social support that marriage can provide in tough times.”

Instead of turning away from one another because of the additional stress, couples may be looking towards one another for support, which could be an encouraging sign for the state of marriages in America. Our culture, which thrives on immediate satisfaction, might be adapting to the times.

Take a look at the whole article and let us know what you think about it! How has money and the Great Recession affected your marriage?

Marriage and divorce in Arkansas and around the U.S.

Monday, May 11th, 2009

Check out this interactive graph that shows how the marriage and divorce rate of Arkansas compares to the rest of the states in the U.S. Click the link below.

Arkansas Marriage & Divorce Graph

Each dot represents a state. Click the “Play” button on the bottom lefthand side of the screen to see the marriage and divorce rate from 1990-2006. Looks like Arkansas tends to be 2nd only to Nevada on most years. Suprised?

Couple married 67 years die within hours of each other

Monday, May 4th, 2009

I (Nick) came across this story a couple of weeks ago. What an amazing bond in marriage these two must have had - they were “inseparable.” I hope this would be characteristic of our marriages too. http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,517040,00.html

TROY, Kan.  —  Residents of a northeast Kansas town are mourning the deaths just hours apart of an elderly couple who were married 67 years. Arnita Yingling died in her sleep early Saturday at the family’s home in Troy. She was 93. Six hours later her 95-year-old husband, Lyle, died at a nursing home in the nearby town of Wathena.

At their funeral Wednesday, friends and relatives described the two as inseparable. Some found comfort knowing neither would have to live without the other.

The Yinglings were married in 1941. Both were born on northeast Kansas farms and were active in Troy as members of their church and civic organizations.

25 ways

Wednesday, April 22nd, 2009

I (Greg) was just on KLRC this morning talking about a very interesting article about 25 ways to make a woman anxious and 25 ways to stimulate shame in a man. For women, some of the answers in the article were things like ignore her, take her for granted, yell or get angry, or dismiss her ideas…what about you? For men, the article quoted things like correct what he says, overreact, criticize, or use a harsh tone…what about you? I’m curious about your thoughts…in the context of your marriage, as a woman, what makes you anxious or as a man, what stimulates a feeling of shame?

Marriage Flowerbeds

Monday, April 20th, 2009

I (Erin) love spring! It’s such a breath of fresh air after the long winter. The trees have new growth, the flowers bloom, and the grass turns from brown to different shades of green. This is what I truly love about spring time—the new radiant colors of purple, green, yellow and orange that slowly began to grow and blossom. Our marriages go through seasonal changes as well. It’s important that we evaluate what isn’t working and replant new life in our marriage. Recently, I took inventory of my own marriage “flowerbed” to evaluate what wasn’t growing and producing great life. Do Greg and I truly connect each day? Are we united on parenting issues? Do we manage our finances in a way that brings us closer together? What simple things could I “plant” to bring a new vibrancy to our relationship? Notice the word “I”—what can I do to create positive change in our marriage.

Over the next few days, I encourage you to spend some time reflecting on your marriage relationship. Are there any areas that you’d like to see refreshed for springtime? Are there a few intentional behaviors that would help you grow a stronger, more vibrant marriage? Take time to evaluate where you desire to improve and grow your marital relationship. What will make your “relational” flower beds flourish with the new, vibrant colors of spring?

Your Marriage Dream

Monday, March 30th, 2009

I (Erin Smalley) was recently having coffee with a girlfriend and she shared that “she doesn’t dream anymore.” At first I was confused, wondering if she had a neurological issue that kept her from entering REM sleep, thus, explaining her lack of dreaming. However, as I continued to listen, I realized that she was actually talking about “dreams” in the way of “things she dreamt about doing”—goals for her life and marriage.

As I listened to my friend that morning, I realized that little children have no problem dreaming about the present and the future. My 7 year-old son dreams about being in the NFL someday; however, he also thinks his 40-year-old father should be able to try out for the Dallas Cowboys as well!

When do we stop dreaming about the possibilities in life? What about the endless possibilities of greatness in our marriage?

Spend some time today with your spouse “dreaming” about your marriage relationship. What do you each desire your marriage relationship to be like or look like? What would it take to move you in that direction? How will you know when you get there?

RelationTips

Wednesday, March 25th, 2009

Want ideas on how you can strengthen your marriage that are simple yet meaningful? We encourage you to check out the homepage and see the tips under the “Improve Your Marriage” section on the right side of the page. Each time you visit the page, you can see a new tip, fact, or quote that you can use to grow your marriage. Another option is to sign up to receive text-messages from NWA Healthy Marriages (Text “Love” to 839863). You will receive updates on upcoming events and tips to make your marriage great!

Here is another option for those tech-savvy iPhone users out there - there is a new application called RelationTips that provides  you with daily tips for enriching your most valuable relationships. You can see a demo on their website http://www.43rdelement.com/

What is your tip for a healthy marriage?

What have you done for your marriage today?

Wednesday, March 18th, 2009

Anyone who attended the most recent I Choose Us marriage seminar knows how much we encourage couples to do simple yet meaningful things for their marriage.  We do this because we have seen that one of the biggest opportunities for couples to strengthen their marriage is to consider what they do for one another daily. For example, I found out that my wife didn’t have a very good night’s sleep last night so I told her to keep sleeping and that I would get the kids ready for school (although I’m sure my poor children were teased based on how I dressed them!). Although these actions may seem small and insignificant, if done day after day, they can help take your marriage from good to great.

That is why we have been asking couples around NWA, “What have you done for your marriage today?” You can see some of their responses in this video. We would love to see your response to this question, so leave a comment below to share what you have done!


What have you done for your marriage today? from NWA Healthy Marriages on Vimeo.


What have you done for your marriage today? from NWA Healthy Marriages on Vimeo.