TIPS FOR BRINGING BACK THE SIZZLE
- Let’s talk about it. Open and honest communication is vital to keep the spark alive. It’s important though, to have specific times where you don’t discuss the kids, jobs, bills or other stress related topics, and use the time to really connect with each other as friends and lovers.
- Give plenty of compliments. Tell your spouse why you love her. Appreciate your spouse for his achievements. Express genuine appreciation and gratitude for the things they do.
- Look the part. It may seem rather silly to have to point out what should be very obvious, but you would be surprised how many people have mentioned basic grooming habits being a problem in their relationship. There isn’t much that can diminish the spark between husband and wife than to see your spouse looking frumpy and disheveled.
- Be touchy and feely! Begin and end each day by physically touching your spouse with hugs and kisses. Hold hands, hug, kiss, offer back rubs and shoulder massages, cuddle, spoon. The more you practice being affectionate, the more connected you feel and the more your passion for each other will grow.
- Flirt with your spouse. Make time during the day to call or text message your spouse to let them know you are thinking about them. Don’t use that time to complain about the kids, the in-laws, or bills piling up. Everyone likes to know that someone is thinking about them, and it'll boost their day just knowing that you took the time.
- Create a romantic atmosphere at home. Put the kids to bed at a reasonable hour. Turn off the TV. Keep a ready supply of scented candles to make the home smell nice, turn on some soft romantic music and dim the lights. The rest is up to you!
- Bring back the fun! Be spontaneous! Be silly and goofy with each other, laugh a lot and enjoy the pleasure of each other’s company. Create opportunities for fun together!
- Make small gestures. Periodically surprise your spouse with small gifts or activities to let them know you’re thinking of them. Do something thoughtful, whether it’s bringing home flowers, buying them something you know they wanted or taking out the trash. The little things really do count.
- Do something unexpected. Show up at your spouse’s work for lunch. Give a full-body massage after the kids go to sleep. Write a note on a Post-It and leave it on the mirror. Get out of the sweats and wear something sexy. Surprise them with a love letter from you (handwritten) and a rose in their car. Surprise each other once in a while.
- Spice up your sex life. Boredom in the relationship significantly affects the sexual life. It may even deteriorate the quality of sex. If you find that your bedroom is a place to sleep and nothing more, both of you should fix the problem immediately. You can perk up the passion in your dull relationship by spicing up your sex life. Retrieved from "http://www.articlesbase.com/marriage-articles/how-to-spice-up-your-marriage-or-love-relationship-194428.html"
While it may be true that the initial passion and spark begins to wane after a period of time, fueled by the responsibilities of caring for children, laundry, jobs, the mortgage, soccer practice and dance recitals, many couples tend to forget that their first priority is to their spouse and marriage. Never stop courting each other! Write notes, send texts, cook together, compliment each other, do the things you did before kids. Seduce each other. Make a fuss over your partner the way you used to. It's time to spice things up, relight the fire and bring passion, excitement and “sizzle” back into your marriage!
