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The State of Your Relationship

This quiz is designed to give you the opportunity to reflect on and respond to some key areas of your relationship, whether you are dating or engaged. It is free, anonymous, and takes only a few minutes to complete. The best part is you will receive immediate feedback about your marriage.

Demographics

Gender

Age

Racial Identity

Combined Family Income

Do you live in Northwest Arkansas? (Benton, Washington, Crawford, Carroll, Madison, and Sebastian counties)

Relationship History

How many years have you been with your partner?

Are you currently living with your partner?

Relationship Satisfaction

*Questions from this point forward go towards the cumulative State of Your Relationship score

How satisfied are you with your relationship?

How satisfied are you with your boyfriend / girlfriend / fiancé as a partner?

How satisfied are you with your relationship with your boyfriend / girlfriend / fiancé?

We have a good relationship.

My relationship with my partner is very stable.

My relationship with my partner is strong.

My relationship with my partner makes me happy.

I really feel like part of a team with my partner.

All things considered, what degree of happiness best describes your relationship?

Relationship Commitment

My relationship with my partner is more important to me than almost anything else in my life.

I may not want to be with my partner a few years from now.

I like to think of my partner and me more in terms of “us” and “we” than “me” and “him/her”.

I want this relationship to stay strong no matter what rough times we may encounter.

Relationship Confidence

I believe we can handle whatever conflicts will arise in the future.

I feel good about our prospects to make this relationship work for a lifetime.

I am very confident when I think of our future together.

We have the skills a couple needs to make a relationship last.

Positive Bonding

We have a lot of fun together.

We regularly have great conversations where we just talk as good friends.

Negative Interaction

Do little arguments escalate into ugly fights with accusations, criticisms, name calling or bringing up past problems?

Does your partner belittle or criticize your opinions, feelings or desires?

Does your partner seem to view your words or actions more negatively than you meant them to be?

Do you have a problem to solve and it feels like you and your partner are on opposite teams?

When you and your partner argue, does one of you withdraw, that is, one of you doesn’t want to talk anymore or just leaves the scene?

Do you hold back from telling your partner what you really think and feel?

Do you seriously think about what it would be like to date or marry someone else?

Do you feel lonely in your relationship?