The State of Your Marriage

Gender

Age

Racial Identity

Combined Family Income

Do you live in Northwest Arkansas? (Benton, Washington, Crawford, Carroll, Madison, and Sebastian counties)

How many years have you been married to your current spouse?

Did you and your current spouse live together before you got married?

*Questions from this point forward go towards the cumulative State of Your Relationship score

How satisfied are you with your marriage?

How satisfied are you with your husband/wife as a spouse?

How satisfied are you with your relationship with your husband / wife?

My relationship with my spouse is more important to me than almost anything else in my life.

I believe we can handle whatever conflicts will arise in the future.

We have a lot of fun together.

Do little arguments escalate into ugly fights with accusations, criticisms, name calling or bringing up past problems?

When we are having a problem, my partner often refuses to talk about it.

My partner and I have different ideas about the best way to solve our disagreements.

I may not want to be with my spouse a few years from now.

I feel good about our prospects to make this relationship work for a lifetime.

We regularly have great conversations where we just talk as good friends.

Does your spouse belittle or criticize your opinions, feelings or desires?

I wish my partner were more willing to share his/her feelings with me.

When we discuss problems, my partner understands my opinions and ideas.

I like to think of my spouse and me more in terms of "us" and "we" than "me" and "him/her".

I am very confident when I think of our future together.

Does your spouse seem to view your words or actions more negatively than you meant them to be?

At times it is hard for me to ask my partner for what I want.

Even during disagreements, I can share my feelings and ideas with my partner.

I want this relationship to stay strong no matter what rough times we may encounter.

We have the skills a couple needs to make a marriage last.

Do you have a problem to solve and it feels like you and your spouse are on opposite teams?

My partner often doesn't understand how I feel.

Sometimes we have serious disputes over unimportant issues.

We have a good relationship.

When you and your spouse argue, does one of you withdraw, that is, one of you doesn't want to talk anymore or just leaves the scene?

I am very satisfied with how my partner and I talk with each other.

At times I feel some of our differences never get resolved.

My relationship with my spouse is very stable.

Do you hold back from telling your spouse what you really think and feel?

It is difficult for me to share negative feelings with my partner.

To avoid hurting my partner's feelings during an argument, I tend to say nothing.

My relationship with my spouse is strong.

Do you seriously think about what it would be like to date or marry someone else?

My partner is a very good listener.

When we argue, I usually end up feeling responsible for the problem.

My relationship with my spouse makes me happy.

We compromise when problems arise.

Do you feel lonely in your relationship?

I really feel like part of a team with my spouse.

We feel very close to each other.

We usually agree on how to spend money.

Spiritual differences cause some tension in our relationship.

I am completely satisfied with the amount of affection my partner gives me.

I am happy with the flexibility we have in our roles and responsibilities.

All things considered, what degree of happiness best describes your relationship?